Be kind to yourself when around family and friends
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and don’t feel obliged to ‘hold it together’.
Many families have shared with us that they have felt the need to do this, especially in front of extended family and friends who are hosting them for Christmas. Having early conversations with family and friends may bring comfort to everyone.
You could use the below examples of how to have these conversations.
Friends and family
‘We may feel a little overwhelmed over the festive period, we may need to take time out during the day to have a little rest, please don’t feel we don’t appreciate you or you have done something wrong’
‘We are not sure how we will feel on Christmas day, please do not be offended if we only stay a little while, we are very grateful for your invite’
For you and your children
‘I am feeling a little sad right now, I am missing mummy a lot today. I am just going to sit down for a while and spend a little time to look after myself. If this is something you need to do today, then that’s ok too’.
‘Christmas can still be exciting, no one should have any expectations on how you should feel. It’s perfectly normal to still have fun and laugh today, there may be times when you feel sad and that’s ok too.’